This story is from the book, The 7 habits of highly effective people by Stephen R. Covey.
Clear your mind and closed your eyes, picture yourself going to the funeral of a loved one. Picture yourself driving to the chapel, parking the car and getting out. As you walk inside the chapel. you notice the flowers. the soft organ music. You see the faces of friends and family you pass along the way. You feel the shared sorrow of losing, the joy of having known, you radiates from the hearts of the people.
As you walk down to the front of the room and look inside the casket, you suddenly come face to face with yourself. This is your funeral.
All these people have come to honor you, to express feelings of love and appreciation of your life. As you take a seat and wait for the services to begin, you look at the program at your hand. There are four speakers, the first is coming from your immediate family and extended family - wife, husband, children, parents, grandparents, cousin, aunts that have come from all over the country to attend. The second speaker is one of your friends that can give a sense of who you were as a person.
The third speaker is from your work or profession. The fourth is from your community or organization. where you have been involved in service.
Now think deeply. What would you like each of these speakers to say about you and your life?
What kind of wife, husband,father, mother would you like their words to reflect? What kind of daughter, son, cousin? What kind of friend? What kind of working associate?
What kind of character would you like them to have seen in you? What contributions or what achievements you want them to remember? Look carefully at the people around you. What difference would you like to have made in their lives?
Kindly reflect and answer those questions.